Most recently I became not only a pastor's kid but also an M.K. My mom quit her job and my dad passed on his church and they moved to Delhi, India to plant a church. Now they are both pastors and missionaries,but primarily they are students of Hindi (the language spoken in that part of the country. Lately I have been talking to many people who grew up on the mission field and I think it would be interesting to hear from them too. Here is a letter from a lady that I work with at the Sugar Land Vineyard who raised her children in South America on the mission field.
This is a great website! My kids were Mks (missionary kids), much like pastors kids, with the same “life Under a Microscope” experience. Everyone expects Mks to be perfect, and they often react to this expectation with low self-worth, resentment, or even extreme rebellion. They can see the hypocrisy so clearly in “Christian leaders” and in their parents, who often “jump through hoops” for supporting churches or individuals, and make them do the same. They also intensely bond with other Mks. They are without their own culture around them and sometimes move frequently . They are referred to a 3rd culture kids, because they create a there own culture with other Mks, not belonging to their home culture or to the new culture they have adjusted to. We, as parents, probably deal with some of the same issues your parents dealt with... being torn between obligation and duty to family, guilt for “neglecting” our children’s needs, etc...Anyway, I think it’s great that you have a forum for others to talk about the kind of issues you grew up with. That will be very helpful for some and interesting to try to understand for others.
Love in Him,